The Never Ending Mom Toss up between a Minivan and SUV

Never in a million years would I have guessed that I would be driving around town in a minivan. Well it happened! The never ending mom dilemma is real guys! I asked you guys on Instagram whether you were team minivan or team SUV and so many of you chimed in. Many of you were pretty adamant that you would NEVER be a minivan mom and offered some great 3 row SUV options. And there were some of you that swore by the minivan and felt it would be best for us given the stage of life that we are in.

“I am NOT a minivan kind of mom!” Those are words that have been ingrained in me for many many years. Why? Honestly, there is no real good reason for it, other than it being an aesthetic thing. Let’s be serious here, minivans are in no shape or form cool looking and I am TOTALLY cool right? LOL. Perhaps it’s me, along with some other fellow moms, trying to hold on to a bit of our pre-kid self. This debate is something I dwelled on for many months, while visiting numerous dealerships trying to rationalized why an SUV was a better fit. I guess if I had to put forth this much effort in finding justification, then deep down inside I must have known what the best option was. A real heart versus head battle within the XO My Home body.

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So here it is, I’m laying it all out for you why I made the leap in case you are ever in the same predicament as us:

  1. Trunk space: Unless you are going for gas guzzling monster of an SUV, there is just not enough trunk space once you put up that third row for a third child. I consider myself quite the minimalist but once you throw a stroller in the mix, there just isn’t enough room for much else. We were only considering mid size SUVs.
  2. Access: Getting in and out of a minivan is so much easier. It is lower to the ground yet taller so you don’t need to hurt yourself bending over to strap those 5 point harnesses in. The kids can hop on and off with little effort.  We looked at many SUVs searching for different mechanisms that would allow the boys to access the third row on their own. For the most part, it was too difficult or too heavy for the boys to move the second row seat themselves in order to get to their seat in the back. Some SUVs do have the option for captains chair in the second row and this does make it easier for kids to get in and out. However, for adults you would still have to crouch quite a bit.  If you have aging parents, this is something to note.
  3. Sliding doors: This somewhat ties in with point number 2 and was actually not a deal breaker for me. However, I think it is worth mentioning here. The automatic sliding doors are quite amazing as you would never have to worry whether the car parked next to you left you enough room to get in and out. You’ll never be left frustrated and crying bloody murder as you squeeze yourself in between the two cars trying to strap your little one in. And in our case, the sliding doors are automatic and that is helpful for younger kids. They can let themselves into the car rather than waiting for you to pull on that heavy SUV door for them.
  4. My kids love it. They voted for the minivan from the beginning as they think it is the coolest car ever. I am sure that will change at some point but in their eyes right now, I totally have Cool Mom status! a62711fa-425f-4ab6-988f-07f30e05be2b 2.JPG
  5. Energy Efficient: This may or may not apply to you. We opted for the Chrysler Pacifica Hybrid as it allows us to reduce our energy consumption as a family. I love the idea that most of our day to day drive, we won’t be burning fuel, doing our small part in making this world a better and cleaner place for our children.
  6. Last but not least, the aestethics. Yes minivans have come along way but there are some beautiful and sleek looking SUVs out there. However, I am choosing not to make it matter to me.  I absolutely want to be that mom that is chauffeuring my kids and their friends around town to different events and activities and the minivan just fit the bill. However, I’ll be doing it while rocking my cool mom graphic tees and designer handbags.

There you have it! I hope if you are ever debating wether you could become a minivan mom or not, that you find this helpful.

XO,

Kim

 

Maternity Wear Without Maternity clothes

Guys, just a few more days and I’ll be 31 weeks pregnant which means we are officially in single digit countdown! To say we are excited in anticipation of this baby is an understatement but not being prepared is definitely not one. Our poor baby still does not have a place to sleep.  My goal next week is to start the preparation for the arrival of our new bundle of joy. Stay tune for upcoming nursery, baby gear posts and so much more.

As I am quickly approaching the end of my pregnancy, I wanted to share with you how I built my maternity wardrobe without any maternity clothes. This sweet little boy or girl (it will be a surprise) will be our very last baby.  I didn’t want to invest in clothes that I can only wear a few times or for a few short months. If you are in the same boat as I am or looking for versatile pieces that will accommodate both a growing baby bump and post pregnancy, this is for you.

For the most part, I avoided wearing jeans/pants and stuck to dresses, elastic band skirts, joggers and jumpsuits.

This dress is currently my favorite dress of all time. It is a such a flattering day to day midi dress that comfortably stretches to accommodate a growing belly. It also makes the perfect LBD post pregnancy.

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I have owned this Leith dress in multiple colors for a few years now and it has been the perfect go to maternity dress. I also recently purchased this red bohemian dress  that simply drapes over my belly. It is such a statement dress that is comfortable and light weight, perfect for summer.

 

thumbnail_IMG_1958.jpgIf you are into jumpsuits, then you cannot go wrong with this one. It hits all the marks, affordable, comfortable and on trend. I also got this kimono during the Memorial Day sale to rock at my baby sprinkle in about 2 weeks. And let’s not forget about comfortable nightmare. I have this night gown from Target in all three colors. 

What I Pretty Much Live in These Days

 

Swimsuits:

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Living in Florida, you can’t really get away without putting on a swimsuit every now and then. I pretty much stick to high waisted bottoms and these have been my affordable go to swim suits during my pregnancy. This blush tunic coverup is my all time favorite.

 

Headpieces:

Accessorizing with a headpiece has been my tool to elevate my maternity wardrobe. If you follow me on Instagram and seen my stories, you’ll notice that I am almost always rocking one of these headbands.

 

 

 

 

On your 5th Birthday

January 12, 2018

Dear Lucas,

On this day five years ago you changed my entire life! I still remember when the midwife placed your slippery 9 lb body on to mine and I started screaming “Oh my gosh, HELP! He’s slipping off of me!” like it was just yesterday. You were this wrinkly old looking little baby with swollen eyes, so tiny yet so perfect. I loved you before you ever entered this world. When I finally managed not to have you slip off my arms, I loved you even more, more than I ever thought was humanly possible.

Both your dad and I opted not to sleep that night. We didn’t really speak to each other because we were both exhausted. We just sat in silence and stared at you through the glass bassinet making sure we saw your chest go up and down the entire night. We didn’t know what to expect as first time parents.  The one thing we did know was that we desperately wanted you to be healthy and strong.

Before you were born, I had all these ideas of how I was going to be the perfect mom to you. I was pretty certain I was never going to raise my voice at you, say things I didn’t mean, make empty threats, be overprotective, bribe you with candy or just give into whatever it is you are doing so I could avoid the potential of a meltdown . Well, we all know how that went!

Just like that, you are 5 today! Now you have to use an entire hand to show people how old you are.  I know you’re pretty ecstatic about that. I know you’re going to continue to grow up a lot faster than I will ever be prepared for.

I want you to know that I am sorry for all the times I raised my voice at you when it was probably not justified or because I was having a bad day. I am sorry for the times where I was not able to give you the undivided attention you needed because I was preoccupied with something that was far less important than you are to me. I am sorry if I ever made you feel unimportant because there is nothing more important to me than you, your brother and your dad.

I hope that as you grow older, that you will not remember me for those moments but for all the tears I cried silently when you came home crying because someone at school was not nice to you; for all the guilt I felt for not being the perfect mom that I had hoped to be; for all the nights I chose not to sleep so I could watch over you and make sure you were ok while you were sick; for the countless hours I played playdoh with you despite how much I hate playdoh; for all the scooter and bike rides we took daily no matter how tired I was, for the endless hugs and kisses I gave you everyday; for the times I built courage to initiate our first conversation after a fight and for how I devoted my entire life to provide you the happiest experience I know how. By no means am I perfect, I have made many mistakes but I am only human. I am still figuring out this whole motherhood thing, so I hope that you be patient with me as I am patient with you. I promise you I will only get better with time.

Today we celebrate you, celebrate the happiness that you have brought into my life and the unconditional love you have taught me. Thank you so much for changing my entire life starting this day five years ago. There are going to be some bumpy roads along the way as you walk through life. I might not be strong enough to lift you up physically when you fall, trust that I will be there by your side. I am hurting as much you are hurting. I promise to provide you the support you need to get up and stand on your own two feet. Because I am your mom. Despite how tough some days are, I would not have it any other way.

XO,

 

Your mom

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